HOW TO DEAL WITH LONELINESS ???
Haruki Murakami, in his novel "Sputnik Sweetheart" talked about the spaceship 'Sputnik', where the dog alone named Laika went there, for traveling to the eternity. And Murakami wondered, how did the dog feel, totally alone in this whole universe, what did he concentrate about there!
So, like Laika, we all are the same. Sometimes we all feel so lonely, there are a lot of people around us but we don't feel any connections with them. Murakami's this thought is one of the deepest thought I've ever read. From this, I want to say that when you feel that much of loneliness, everything around you started feeling so misleading, then, firstly just accept what's your feeling at that moment, but I would say, don't live in that feeling long. Feeling of loneliness can damage you immensely and resulted into depression.
I would say, you should stop thinking that way. I will suggest, in loneliness, try some different things to engage your mind.
Let's see, if my points give you some relief-
1) DON'T JUST SIT BACK~
Get up, meet with people. I don't think, that everyone around you is negative. You also can choose talking into phone. Think, which people you can be with such a time like this.
2) JOIN A CLASS~
Yes, you can join a class, online or maybe if possible go offline. Check out your interest areas like designing, singing or writing. Now a days many courses are available within 2-3 months or some courses may take 6 months. So, join it. You'll feel engage, you will get opportunity to learn new things too. It will be fun.
3) PLAN YOUR DAY~
Try to make a plan for your day. Make a vision board and write down everything you want to or need to do in the whole day. Reschedule your old routine a little bit.
If needed, start a journal. It helps me very much during my bad times.
4) DO SELF TALK (POSITIVE PLEASE)~
Sound weird? No, actually it's therapeutic. When you feel lonely, you just started to think 'Why I am like this?', 'What have I done to my life!?' and other negative thoughts to fill up your brains. Need to stop that.
Positive self talk will lead you to improvement of your life. For that, accept that, this phase is going on and you feel lonely. Now try to find those "why" . 'Why am I feeling this way' , 'why I should stop this', also 'how to fix it' too.
5) SOLITUDE MATTERS ~
Though I understand that, not everytime we want to become socially active. Which goes with me sometimes. So, then do something, use this 'me time' effectively. Read a book (obviously a happy one, romantic one or humourous one maybe), you can try to do which are unknown things to you. Like cooking a new recipe, practicing art, needle works.. explore! But doing just nothing, will not help you to cope up with loneliness.
Lastly, always remember, you are not alone. This phase is not your entire life, but only a part of it. We all feel lonely sometimes with people or without people, but we just feel this feeling!
Also if you really need help then please consult with a therapist. Loneliness is not a disease, it's a dark side of your usual lifestyle. It will fade away and until that, take time and hold yourself a bit.
Haruki Murakami, in his novel "Sputnik Sweetheart" talked about the spaceship 'Sputnik', where the dog alone named Laika went there, for traveling to the eternity. And Murakami wondered, how did the dog feel, totally alone in this whole universe, what did he concentrate about there!
So, like Laika, we all are the same. Sometimes we all feel so lonely, there are a lot of people around us but we don't feel any connections with them. Murakami's this thought is one of the deepest thought I've ever read. From this, I want to say that when you feel that much of loneliness, everything around you started feeling so misleading, then, firstly just accept what's your feeling at that moment, but I would say, don't live in that feeling long. Feeling of loneliness can damage you immensely and resulted into depression.
I would say, you should stop thinking that way. I will suggest, in loneliness, try some different things to engage your mind.
Let's see, if my points give you some relief-
1) DON'T JUST SIT BACK~
Get up, meet with people. I don't think, that everyone around you is negative. You also can choose talking into phone. Think, which people you can be with such a time like this.
Yes, you can join a class, online or maybe if possible go offline. Check out your interest areas like designing, singing or writing. Now a days many courses are available within 2-3 months or some courses may take 6 months. So, join it. You'll feel engage, you will get opportunity to learn new things too. It will be fun.
3) PLAN YOUR DAY~
Try to make a plan for your day. Make a vision board and write down everything you want to or need to do in the whole day. Reschedule your old routine a little bit.
If needed, start a journal. It helps me very much during my bad times.
4) DO SELF TALK (POSITIVE PLEASE)~
Sound weird? No, actually it's therapeutic. When you feel lonely, you just started to think 'Why I am like this?', 'What have I done to my life!?' and other negative thoughts to fill up your brains. Need to stop that.
Positive self talk will lead you to improvement of your life. For that, accept that, this phase is going on and you feel lonely. Now try to find those "why" . 'Why am I feeling this way' , 'why I should stop this', also 'how to fix it' too.
5) SOLITUDE MATTERS ~
Though I understand that, not everytime we want to become socially active. Which goes with me sometimes. So, then do something, use this 'me time' effectively. Read a book (obviously a happy one, romantic one or humourous one maybe), you can try to do which are unknown things to you. Like cooking a new recipe, practicing art, needle works.. explore! But doing just nothing, will not help you to cope up with loneliness.
Lastly, always remember, you are not alone. This phase is not your entire life, but only a part of it. We all feel lonely sometimes with people or without people, but we just feel this feeling!
Also if you really need help then please consult with a therapist. Loneliness is not a disease, it's a dark side of your usual lifestyle. It will fade away and until that, take time and hold yourself a bit.
I absolutely loved reading this post !! Every point that you have raised is so relevant. Positive self talk is soo important and effective. Reading or listening to self help conten can help too. In order to feel less lonely one must be active. Inactivity leads to a lot of mental problems.
ReplyDeleteYes, inactivity just turns people's self confidence low!
DeleteI have faced it badly! 😑
Very nicely worded write-up & surely much needed one for many. Keep it up.
ReplyDeleteThank you 😊😊
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